Boudoir can be intimidating for many reasons; personal image
issues with your weight or confidence, the fear that somebody would
find the photos or that they will be plastered all over the internet
to ruin your reputation, or the misconception that boudoir requires
you to be pornographic in some way. Perhaps there is even the
feeling that when you hand the finished product to your special
somebody that they will be unhappy about the results, or angry that
you allowed another person to see you in such an intimate way.
After hearing stories from many of my clients on how this was a
huge step outside their comfort zone or how getting their photos back
gave them a chance to really see how beautiful they are inside and
out, I wanted to share their stories to let you all in on the
not-so-secret.
Pamela
A few weeks ago I shared the story of my best friend
and her boudoir shoot. She and I were college roommates and have
similarly aged toddlers. She is a wonderful person and has a glowing
smile, but really never has the chance to shine anymore between her
work as a nurse and her work as a mom. I am so pleased she took the
time to share her thoughts as her shoot has some of my favorite
classic poses.
"Being a mom has given me a very different image of myself an sometimes it overtakes who I feel I am as an individual. For me boudoir was a reminder of that person I am and have always been. It's a way of showing myself I'm not just a mom I'm still woman and that is something to celebrate. It's fun and it's probably outside of a lot of woman's comfort zones (mine included) but the images afterward are incredible it gives you a glimpse of what others see in you not just the physical features."
Tanya
A stay-at-home mother
of two that once had some serious self esteem and body image issues, she has had a long road to get to the confident and outspoken woman we see
today. I feel blessed to help show off her big, beautiful smile
in this surprise sitting done while her husband was out at work.
This survivor of a truly unpleasant past is an inspiration for being
so confident no matter what her detractors try to say.
"I feel it isn't so
much about the modeling as it is about how the woman feels in their
own skin. the fact that I have posed for pictures of this fashion
says a lot of how I portray myself in my own eyes. Do I have some
problem areas that need to be worked on? sure I do! do I have areas
that I wish would never see the light of the sun and curse the eyes
of others? maybe... but I am who I am, not one single person is going
to change that and the ability to be photographed and show that
personality, MY personality and my soul and inner being shines
through. when I look at any and all pictures taken of me not only do
I see body and soul and personality, I also see growth, as a person,
and I also see the growth of the photographer. "
Charity
Charity has been featured here on our blog a few times and writes
her own thoughts on working as a model in boudoir, fashion and
fetish. She is always a pleasure to work with and talk to about many
things. I often call Charity when it is time to do a study on poses
or for a chance to practice with an experienced and flexible model
before working with a client. She is happy to give feedback and
honest opinions without overly praising or dragging out a negative
when having a bad day. For this reason I respect her thoughts on
boudoir as an art form and as a model.
"Boudoir shots for me are all about the setting and the mood. These shots are based on the concept of a lady’s “sitting room” where she would entertain visitors and lovers. They can include nudity and implied nudity but in essence nudity and being scantily clad is not a requirement. Boudoir for me typically uses lingerie and lighting. They can involve props and gloves as well as full body or just an arm."
Writing this and speaking to these ladies has given
me the final push to put aside my own insecurities about my health
troubles and lingering baby weight. In the coming weeks I will be
planning and posing for a new boudoir shoot of my very own. I plan
to share some inside images of the process and the results in an up
coming blog later in June.
Thank you to every one of my brave and beautiful
ladies for sharing this experience with the world. I hope they can
inspire you to be brave and believe in your own beauty! If you are located in the New Hampshire or southern Maine area and would like to book your own boudoir session, please contact our studio for more details.